I left Javo this morning to supervise a photo shoot. He was throwing a tantrum because he couldn't watch the movie he wanted and we couldn't go and buy the gifts for his classmates's party. Somehow Martin was able to handle it and they had a peaceful day.
On picking me up this afternoon Martin tells me that Javo and lala had this long conversation going on. I am happy about that because this peace between them took some work and adjustment. As Javo's personality is different from his cousins, it took mom quite a while to understand and understand how to relate to him. I believe they finally have a cool relationship going on.
Javo's relationship to loli is something else althogether. Despite the many bribes of candy, chocolates and whatever else he wants to eat, Javo still refuses to go with him or kiss him.
Mom told me that one of their conversations was about his refusal to go with Dad. When asked why, he told lala that loli's voice is loud.
I so get Javo because I myself become anxious when faced with a loud person--whether loud as in a booming voice or just loud as in obnoxious personality. My heart beats anxiously and my instinct is to get away from that person as fast as I can.
The best way to deal with us is to be calm and peaceful. We cannot give of ourselves because all we want to do is get away from the presence that troubles us.
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